Enjoy listening to Paul's interview with Michael on Empire Broadcast Radio by clicking on the following link.
March 2015 - Paul's taping of Young Solutions radio commercial for Grand 101.1
The Wellington Advertiser
August 12, 2016 - They've graduated - What now?
They’re finishing high school soon, they have no plan to attend post-secondary school, and they don’t have a job.
You’re concerned that they’re spending too much time either playing video games online with their ‘friends’, or endless hours texting, instagraming, snapchatting, or on some other social media app. You fear that they will become a member of that club of not-quite-grown-ups that never leave home and will live in your basement forever.
What to do about this depends so much on how you understand this problem. Consider these aspects:
Kids today can graduate with only four years of high school and are often short on maturity when they become faced with being an adult.
Kids today are spending much more time in front of a screen and typing to friends, and not so much time with others. This is leading to fewer social skills, and higher anxiety about being an adult. Taking a job where they have to interact with so many new people can be overwhelming.
The job market is not what it was when we were young. University grads are working minimum wage jobs and job security is becoming obsolete. And, recognize that there are many more directions to choose from than ever before, with the huge rise in internet and technology related jobs that most of us can’t even comprehend.
And let’s look at our role. This generation of parents has frequently been busy trying to give our kids everything that we didn’t have, which in my opinion, is resulting in a generation of entitled youth. If they haven’t had to work for what they wanted growing up, they may have limited experience with the concept of earning their way.
So let’s recognize that making that leap from the nest is not so easy as it used to be. They’ll benefit from our increased patience, our support and encouragement, and especially a recognition that it’s a scary process for them. Even more important than talking to our youth, is listening. Sometimes, if we give them a chance, they may have ideas, unique ways to move forward, that just need us to slow down, and nurture them along.
May 13, 2016 - Know the facts about mental illness
Consider some facts from the website of the Canadian Mental Health Association (CMHA):
- 20 per cent of Canadians will personally experience a mental illness in their lifetime.
- Mental illness affects people of all ages, educational, income levels and cultures.
- Approximately 8% of adults will experience major depression at some time in their lives.
- Anxiety disorders affect 5% of the household population.
- Suicide accounts for 24% of all deaths among 15-24 year olds and 16% among 25-44 year olds.
- Suicide is one of the leading causes of death in both men and women from adolescence to middle age.
- Almost one half (49%) of those who feel they have suffered from depression or anxiety have never gone to see a doctor about this problem.
- Stigma or discrimination attached to mental illnesses presents a serious barrier, not only to diagnosis and treatment but also to acceptance in the community.
Don’t be afraid to reach out. Centre Wellington has a multitude of options for those wanting help with mental health issues.
CMHA, a free service, has an office in Fergus (1-844-264-2993). CMHA typically works with those considered to have moderate to severe mental health issues.
Most doctors in our community are connected to Family Health Teams. Via a referral from your doctor, you may have access to free services from a FHT Mental Health Counselor including individual and group programs.
Many employers provide employee and family assistance programs (EAP or EFAP) to their employees and their families. Via these EFAPs, short term solution focused counselling can be accessed, typically at no or low cost.
Further, many workers with a benefit package often have coverage for themselves and their families for registered social workers, or psychological services that can cover some or all the costs of private counsellors or therapists, of which there are several working from Centre Wellington.
You don’t need to suffer alone, nor in silence. Reach out. Help is there, and waiting to hear from you.
February 12, 2016 - Tips to deal with stress
You’ve heard it or said it yourself: “If there were just a few more hours in a day, maybe I could get it all done.”
Too often we run ourselves ragged, trying to get it all done.
before we sit down, take a break, or do something just for us.
trying to get it all done before we sit down, take a break, or do something just for us.
Yes, we’ve all heard it, there is good stress. But let’s talk about the other kind, like dealing with the ex about the kids, or working a job where we feel overwhelmed. Too much stress for too long can lead to depression.
Developing insight and awareness about how and why we perceive situations the way we do, can make a huge difference between making new better choices, or falling into views and behaviors that have been with us for years.
Many choose journaling to help. Good friends or the right family members can help too, or a good counsellor/therapist. Finding someone you can talk to can make a critical difference, to help you sift through events, consider perspectives, and move forward.
Especially consider self care. Consider four cornerstones to avoid/fight depression:
- healthy eating. Frozen pizza and soda pop won’t do much to help your brain stay strong;
- exercise. Stress is reduced by exercising, but it’s common to cut out exercise to reduce time stress. It’s about the chicken or the egg. Remember that getting the exercise helps get your body and brain to work efficiently;
- stay social. Connections share the load. A single stick breaks easily, while a bunch is much stronger; and
- good sleep habits. Too much sleep is not good for us. Learning how to sleep well at night is important.
While there is not one answer for everyone, it is in everyone’s best interest to look carefully at how we manage our stress.
What feels easy, is rarely good for us, and what is good for us, is rarely easy. And remember, there is always help to be found.
Booster Article - October 2012 Issue
That Kid is driving me crazy!
Anyone heard that one before? Many parents these days are having a much harder time parenting than ever before.
With separations, single parent families, internet influences ramping up the kids, access to street drugs, and the often excessive free time our kids have, the mix can be scary. On top of that, let’s think about who our teens are hanging out with. Even if we are confident about the youth in our home, what is s/he exposed to by their peers?
It’s a scary world for our teens to grow up in. Parents have so little time and developmentally speaking, teens are distancing themselves from us anyways as they seek to become their own person. As a result, not only do the kids have more unsupervised time, but even if they want to talk, we often don’t have the time, or maybe the patience, or maybe the understanding of what our youth today are facing.
Welcome to Young Solutions, your support for those challenges with family issues; both traditional families, and split and blended families. Therapist, R. Paul Young is a Registered Social Worker and for over 25 years has helped many hundreds of families, children and teens.
Young Solutions was founded in 2011 and is located in a safe and comfortable private country setting in Centre Wellington just outside of Elora. They not only provide counselling for parents, families and teens, but also for adults dealing with stress, anger issues, depression, separations, couple issues and more.
Address:6227 Eighth Line E. Ariss, ON N0B 1B0
(10 minutes north of Guelph/Just outside of Elora)